Embracing Your Worth

Friday, August 14, 2015

The struggle bus for accepting compliments is one I have seemed to find myself riding on a frequent basis over the course of, well, my nearly twenty-two years of life. Who’s with me?

I'm not exactly sure why it's hard for me to accept compliments. I'm good at playing the game of crushing my own self-confidence. I can say thank you in response to a nice compliment, but I can't fully mean it because of the lies that speak "Yeah, right, you don't actually mean that" in my head. I fend off flattery instead of embracing my worth.

It's an ongoing spiritual warfare and at times it is downright unbearable. 

I've been digging deep into this problem of mine lately and how to overcome it, and I've come to realize that the first thing I have to do is change is my perspective.

We have the freedom to live a life of choice. This means when someone compliments you, it's not because he or she has to, but because they want to.

We also have the freedom to embrace our worth. This means when someone compliments you, we have the right to smile with confidence and give a warm thank you in response rather than a thank you fueled by doubt.

Humility is a virtue. But self-abasement—manifested in our refusal to accept praise—is not humility. Self-abasement is the strong and negative force we apply against those who compliment us: against their thoughtful words and positive feelings.
I've realized that by downplaying compliments, I have downplayed the way I look at myself; I've downplayed my self-esteem. How wrong it is to look at myself through any lens besides that of the Lord's and how He sees me. Ladies, accepting compliments does not make you arrogant. As a matter of fact, it's one of the many ways God seeks to remind you of your worth.

Stop downplaying yourself.

Stop engaging in toxic conversation. Stop complaining about your flaws with your friends like it's an everyday topic to be discussed. Don't talk about how fat or ugly you are. Engage in conversation that will lift your spirits instead of bruise your self-esteem. By this, I don't mean for you to compare how good you look to how bad someone looks. Everyone is beautiful and created in the image of God, and we must respect this truth and seek to view people from this place of truth. What I mean is for you to talk about things that give your life meaning. Talk about your passions and your joys. Whatever it is, challenge yourself to be positive in every conversation, and challenge your friends to do the same. Never engage in anything that requires you to view yourself with a different perspective aside from how God sees you.  This is part of fighting the good fight. Don't you dare let the world phase you.

You are made in the image of God and you are perfect in His sight. You are worth everything to Him. Do not neglect this life-giving truth. Bathe yourself in His word and walk in the courage that it provides. You are so. very. worthy.

When you downplay anything that is intended to lift your spirits, you damage yourself. And let's be honest, we're already damaged goods.

I have sought my worth through many different outlets aside from the feet of Jesus. This is what damages our self-esteem the most because everything else aside from Jesus is a temporary fix. Jesus is fully, always and forever our sustainment. The image we bear comes from the sacrifice He made. The worth that our Creator gave us as He breathed life into our very bones was very intentional. Your worth has been instilled from the very beginning. Know this.

There is great hope in the name of Jesus. Embrace this certainty and allow it to be the foundation from which your worth is found.  

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. -Marianne Williamson

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About the Author

Emily Lauren Townsend is a 21 year old lover of Jesus, words, coffee, and creation. She resides in Birmingham, Alabama and works in full-time ministry. Emily is the founder of Daughter of Delight and holds a deep passion for empowering women toward Kingdom advancement through helping them learn how to live fully alive with an awareness of the instilled potential our Maker has placed within us all.


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