Daily Delight

Sunday, June 26, 2016

I recently saw Christian comedian Chonda Pierce perform. If you haven’t been to one of her shows, you should go. She’s funny, poignant and manages to turn her grief and tragic experiences into laughter. She said something that has stuck with me. She said that forgiveness is not about being able to sit down to breakfast and share a meal with the other person. It’s about accepting what has happened, and letting it go in order to move forward. It’s not a new thought, for some reason, it really resonated with me.

You see, I tend to hang on to a lot of things that have been said to me. Sometimes, that’s a wonderful thing – I can go for days on a kind word or a compliment that someone has given me. I remember when I received good news or celebrated a milestone with friends. But, more often than not, I remember the hurtful words and actions. And too many times, I confuse closure with forgiveness. I want to have another conversation with the person who hurt me. To say all of the words that I couldn’t say in the moment and to wrap everything up in a neat little package, set it aside and break bread with the one who wronged me. And sometimes this happens. Sometimes we have the ability and opportunity to sit with someone and work through the hurt and get to a better place. But many times we don’t. Sometimes the hurt is so deep we have to let relationships go in order to let go of the hurt. It’s hard, but we can’t keep re-hashing the wrong or we’ll never move on. So I am working on seeking progress, not closure; on letting go of old hurts, and giving Him room to work. Rather than having one more conversation with those who I am seeking to forgive, I am having one more conversation with God. 

Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. -Ephesians 4:31-32 (NIV) 

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Kyndle Huey≫ ≫Kyndle Huey is 30-something southern girl who calls Birmingham, Alabama home. She loves reading, traveling, and spending time with family and friends. Her simplest pleasure is a good cup of coffee with a side of great conversation. She hopes you will join her in conversation here.


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