Daily Delight

Saturday, September 17, 2016

The other day, I sat and looked in the eyes of my dad- eyes now connected to a “new normal”. It was about a year ago that his long time battle with alcoholism ended with a stroke, downward spiral in health and life confined to a nursing home at an early age. The man who used to be the most intelligent, loudest and proudest in the room, sits still now- moving slowly, struggling to think and speak coherently. It used to be painful to see him. Each time I would be flooded with the negative memories that trumped the positive ones. I would look in his eyes and see a man who caused pain and destruction to our family. But something is different now. I look at him with heartfelt empathy, because I see a person – a flawed human being who made bad choices, as we all do. 

How do you know when you have truly forgiven someone? 
I struggled to find the answer for a while. I think true forgiveness is evident when you begin to see the person and not the action(s). Jesus demonstrated this perfectly on the cross. Betrayed and mocked by his own people, He still chose grace. Father, forgive them, for they know not what they are doing, (Luke 23:34). I want to look in the eyes of the parent who fell short, the friend who lost my trust, the boy who broke my heart – I want to see them for who they are and not what they have done to me. 

After all, the Lord forgives me when I grieve His heart. He loves me when I betray Him. He never allows my undesirable actions to dictate His love for me. Will you join me in pledging to show that type of grace? I know that your heart has been shattered and your trust has been thinned into nothing. Me too, friend. But we have to choose grace over grudges. We have to hand out forgiveness, freely. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you, (Ephesians 4:32). 

{photo: @justice.smith}

About the Author

Simone Diggs≫ ≫Simone is a product of the quaint town of Aiken, South Carolina. Her full-time job is working as an elementary school counselor in Raleigh, NC. When she is not serving children at work, you can find her writing in a local coffee shop, spreading encouragement, or creating pieces for her Etsy shop. Simone's daily goal is helping herself and those around her to find the beauty in every storm. You can keep up with her blog and small business ventures atthehopeanchoredsoul.weebly.com.


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