Daughter Dilemmas: A Faith-Based Ask Column for Women with Hard Questions<br/><br/> | Daughter of Delight | Bible Devotions & Tools For Women of Faith

Welcome to Daughter Dilemmas—a weekly ask column where we lean into the hard, the messy, and even the awkward questions of faith and life, together.

I believe that asking tough questions is not something to shy away from—it’s something to honor. Discomfort shouldn’t disqualify a question. In fact, it’s often in the asking that we discover we’re not alone, that others are wrestling with the very same things. These honest conversations create space for connection, clarity, and Spirit-led perspective we might not have encountered otherwise.

✨ Please note: I am not a therapist, doctor, or life coach. My prayerfully considered shared responses are not meant to provide quick fixes or surface-level advice. Rather, they are intended to be a starting point to the conversation and truths that are anchored in the Gospel so that Christ would be magnified above all.

It is my deepest prayer that Daughter Dilemmas glorifies God and strengthens His people. May these conversations remind you that your questions are welcome, your heart is seen, and Jesus is always near. And may they gently guide you deeper into His loving arms.

To submit a question anonymously, click here. Let’s keep asking the hard things—because asking is often the first step toward healing and hope.

I am struggling in my marriage. I feel unheard, I feel the weight of carrying financial commitments and the pressure of carrying a lot of the responsibility. I feel like I am doing the role of the man and not the woman. Yet my husband is very involved in church work but yet family and our wellbeing is not a priority. It makes me so mad that I even question my faith which is worrying me more. How do I work through this ?

First of all, thank you for being so honest—it takes strength to share what you’re walking through.

Second, I want you to know you are not alone. So many women quietly carry the weight you just described—feeling unseen, unheard, and overwhelmed by responsibilities they never expected and were not intended to bear. It’s okay to feel weary. It’s okay to feel frustrated. And it’s okay to bring every one of those feelings before the Lord.

What you’re feeling is valid, and the tension between your husband’s public ministry and private responsibilities can be especially painful.

The reality is, ministry should never come at the expense of the home—it starts in the home.

So what can you do?

1. Bring your raw heart to God—again and again.
Our Father in Heaven not disappointed by our questions. He welcomes them. Tell Him what hurts. Ask Him for wisdom. Let Him speak into the places where you're starting to feel numb. You don’t have to tidy up your faith before coming to Him.

2. Set healthy boundaries and seek wise counsel.
I would encourage you to lovingly express to your husband how you are feeling. Do this in a way that invites peace, not division.

If possible, sit down with your pastor, an elder, or invite a trusted mentor or counselor into the conversation—a couple or woman who’s spiritually grounded and can walk alongside you with discernment.

3. Know that you are not failing in your role by carrying what you are right now.
Sister, you are doing your best to hold the line when the balance is off. And you know what? That’s not weakness—that’s courage. But God did not design you to carry this weight alone. Do not focus on mustering up the strength for this; His strength is made perfect in our weakness. Trust that God will sustain you while you pray and advocate for change.

4. Guard your heart against bitterness.
This is hard but SO important. Bitterness is a slow poison, and the enemy would love nothing more than to use this pain to wedge distance not only between you and your husband—but also between you and God. Keep asking for help to forgive, even when it’s hard. Not because what you’re going through isn’t painful—but because your heart is worth protecting.

5. Remain faithful.

You cannot force fruit.
You cannot control growth.
But you can remain faithful.

And God will never waste your faithfulness.

He is near, He is working , and He is able to do far more than you can see right now.

Scriptures to pray over your hubby: Ephesians 5:25-26, Joshua 1:9, Psalm 1:2-3, James 1:5, 1 Timothy 6:11, and Colossians 3:23-24

I pray this encouraged you. May the Lord send help, healing, and hope in tangible ways.

I struggle with masturbation. I can go months without it and then fall back in again. I feel like when I repent of this, I question if I mean it this time and I fear this will separate me from God and that scares me. How can I be better?

I want to begin by saying this: God is not surprised by your struggle—and He has not turned His face from you.

The fact that you feel sorrow over this, that you’re seeking help, that you fear disconnection from Him—these are signs of a heart that longs to be near Him. This is evidence of the Holy Spirit at work in you.

Temptation and sin are very real battles for all of us, though they take different forms. But praise God—His mercy is greater.

What you need to know:

1. Repentance is not about perfection—it’s about direction.
When you repent, you’re not saying “I’ll never struggle again.” You’re saying, “Lord, forgive me. I do not want this to have a hold on me. Change my heart and help me turn toward You.” And even if you stumble again, His grace doesn’t run out. True repentance is marked by godly sorrow and a desire to walk in the light—and from what you’ve shared, that’s already present in you.

2. You don’t fight sin by willpower alone—you fight it by walking in the Spirit.
Galatians 5:16 says, “Walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh.”

This means cultivating intimacy with God daily—through prayer, Scripture, community, and surrender. We cannot be changed by truth if we are not immersing ourselves in it. Seek the Lord and ask Him to transform your desires, not just your behavior.

3. Shame isolates. Step into the light.
We all know that sin loves secrecy. But healing begins when we bring the struggle into the light.

My question for you is, is there a trusted, spiritually mature friend or mentor you can talk to?

Confession doesn’t just lighten the burden—it invites accountability and grace. James 5:16 says, “Confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed.”

4. Remove easy access and renew your mind.
Take practical steps: identify and remove any and all triggers, install accountability software if needed, and guard what you allow into your mind and heart. At the same time, don’t just resist temptation—replace it. Fill your heart with truth. Meditate on Scripture. Worship. Replace lies with God’s promises.

5. Take heart: If you are in Christ, your sin does not define you.
Romans 8:1 says, “There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.”

God is not waiting for you to get it together—He is walking with you as you fight. And He who began a good work in you will be faithful to carry it to completion (Philippians 1:6).

You are loved. You are not disqualified. And you are not too far gone. God’s grace doesn’t just forgive—it transforms!

I'm praying for strength and the courage for you to seek accountability. God bless you!

Is there going to be an end to all the planets (Jupiter, mars, Pluto, Neptune, etc.) like there’s going to be an end to earth, or is that just God’s plan for earth? Does God have a specific plan for each planet?

I love the thought behind this question.

While Scripture focuses primarily on God's plan for humanity and earth, it also tells us that all of creation is part of His story—and that includes the planets. Romans 8:22 says,

“For we know that the whole creation has been groaning together in the pains of childbirth until now.”

Note the words “whole creation” here. This verse paints a picture of the entire universe—not just earth—yearning for restoration. Everything God created was affected by the fall. And one day, everything will be made new when Christ returns.

2 Peter 3:10–13 says,

“But the day of the Lord will come like a thief, and then the heavens will pass away with a roar, and the heavenly bodies will be burned up and dissolved, and the earth and the works that are done on it will be exposed. Since all these things are thus to be dissolved, what sort of people ought you to be in lives of holiness and godliness, waiting for and hastening the coming of the day of God, because of which the heavens will be set on fire and dissolved, and the heavenly bodies will melt as they burn! But according to his promise we are waiting for new heavens and a new earth in which righteousness dwells.”

So yes—in a sense, there will be an end or transformation to all of creation, not just earth. But that doesn’t mean the rest of the universe is random or pointless. Psalm 19:1 tells us eerything God made declares His glory. That means each planet, star and galaxy all exists by His design and for His praise.

As for whether God has a specific plan for each individual planet like He does for humanity? The Bible doesn’t tell us that. God’s redemptive plan centers on His relationship with people, made in His image. But according to Scripture, we know that creation is part of the story—woven into the beginning, impacted by the fall, and included in the restoration.

So while we don’t know the purpose of Jupiter’s storms or Pluto’s orbit in a personal sense, we do know this: “All things were created through Him and for Him.” (Colossians 1:16)

Everything—including the planets—is part of the Lord’s majestic masterpiece. And when the new heaven and new earth are revealed, we’ll see just how wide and wondrous His glory really is!

My first child, my son, was stillborn at 38 weeks. We struggled with infertility for 3 years before we got pregnant with him. My pregnancy was easy and healthy. And we still lost him. My husband is the worship pastor at our church. We have served faithfully in ministry for six years together. Why us? Why did God allow this?

I am deeply sorry to read these words. I wish I could hold your hands and simply sit in the silence with you—because some heartbreaks are too deep for words.

Losing your baby boy after years of waiting, hoping, and faithfully serving… it’s a grief that cuts to the soul.

And it’s not just the loss of his life—it’s the loss of the life you dreamed of with him.

The what-could’ve-beens. The what-should’ve-beens.

And I hear your heart when you ask: Why us?

It’s the same question I whispered through tears when my daughter Selah was born and immediately taken into the fight of her life. After multiple open-heart surgeries in her first three months, and not knowing for a long stretch of time if she would live to see tomorrow, I remember looking at her tiny, fragile body—tubes and wires everywhere—and crying out to God, Why her? Why me? Why us?

We had trusted Him. We had walked with Him. We had served faithfully.
And still—our world was cracked wide open.

Oh, the ache of a broken heart with no answers.

But here’s the hard and holy truth I’ve learned many times over: God’s faithfulness is not dependent on our circumstances. And our devotion to Him—even the most sincere and surrendered kind—does not guarantee an easy path.

We live in a broken world, and sometimes the deepest sorrows touch the most faithful lives. But that does not mean God is punishing you. It does not mean He has turned His face from you. And it absolutely does not mean your grief is evidence of failure.

Psalm 34:18 reminds us, “The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.” He is near now, even in the questions. Even in the silence. Even in the moments where hope feels like a thread too thin to hold.

It’s okay to feel angry. It’s okay to question. It's okay to feel like you’re wrestling with your faith. God can hold your sorrow and your doubt. You are not a “bad Christian” for being broken. You’re a beloved daughter who is grieving something precious.

I’m praying that when the questions feel louder than truth, our Father’s nearness will wrap around you in ways you can’t explain. I’m praying you’ll sense Him in the stillness. And I’m praying your son’s life—though short—will forever be a testimony to the love and longing that only a parent can hold.

You’re not alone in this valley. Not even for a moment.

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